I've not been married a decade, just 7 years, but this is my third marriage and it has lasted longer than any of the others. I think part of it is that we really talk to each other, not just AT each other, and we listen as best we can.
What I mean is my husband is in the Army, and has been for 22 years, so with 3 deployments in the last 7 years, his hearing isn't exactly what it used to be. It's kind of a joke between us now. He isn't deaf as a stone yet, but he's getting there. :)
The deployments are what made us learn to talk to each other. You can't really do anything else when you are on seperate continents, you know?
SO - I believe open, honest, up front communication is one of the things that keeps a relationship from falling apart. At least it has mine, I don't know about everyone else's. :)
Have a lovely day or evening, where ever you are. I look forward to your comments on this subject.
Mary, this is awesome advice! I know you are not alone with the marriages under your belt, but you chose to learn from them for this one. Simply awesome!
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