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PammyT
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Hey everyone!

I stumbled across an ad that this is a safe message board. I haven't found many who are monitored by coaches, but this is great! I hope it stays that way and people don't start bashing each other.

I had this ex boyfriend who really treated me awful. It's been over for a couple years, but i have so much trouble dating again. All I think of  is what I don't want in a guy and hate the word marriage. The guys I meet seem to be all just like him or it is just in my head.

I have been stuck for so long and forgiving him seems crazy. He was awful to me with his words calling fat, lazy, no one would want you..furious You are lucky to have me. I left him, but still I feel so haunted. I may check out this assignment Coach Merna is talking about. Not sure if would help, but I am almost so sick of my own thoughts I need something.

Whewww... I could go on and on about him, but I am sick of it. How do I let it go? Can anyone relate? I feel almost alone here with these thoughts...

PammyT

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Hey Pammy,

I am sorry I must have missed this post before. I can relate to what you are saying here. I am nursing a new broken heart myself and want to get better fast. It is hard becasue all the bad stuff just keeps rolling around in my head.

I am sorry you are still feeling like you can't get past it, but there must be some way.

I don't know if I can forgive K** either, he just up and changed his mind one day after 2 years together. Was he lying to me? Was he using me? I still worry about if there is someone else. Man, this really came out of the blue.

I jsut wish I could say f*** it and move on and not hurt anymore.

Sal

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Hey Sally,

Thanks for replying to my post and I am so sorry for your broken heart too. I know how that feels. I do feel better since I posted this. I also have started journaling, which i have never done before.

I just wish I still didn't get so mad at him when I think of him. I am giving myself a couple months off of trying to date and try this journaling thing to get my mind in a better place.

How are you doing?

Pam

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Hey you two,

My name is Jami and I work for Visions - Chapter III websites. I just wanted to say how sorry I am for this rough time. So glad you are both writing about it here.

Jami

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Thanks Jami! I really appreciate it. I am doing better after buying the forgiveness exercise. I realized my resentment was so strong and it was taking over my life. i really do think i am on a better road now.

Pam

PS I don't hate him any more, I just really don't like him! LOL

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LOL Pam!

I know what you mean I have been with with an ex before too. geez they get under your skin. I had a guy always tell me that no one would want you because your fat. Yup, it stuck in my stupid head. He said some worse stuff, but I won't bore you here.

keep posting!

Gina

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I am back! I wanted to stop by and report in on my healing. That exercise was great. I have done it many times and can see why this is a tool for life.

I wrote one of those letters to my boss [didn't give to him] the other day when I couldn't stand him any longer. I did feel better. {the jerk}


Looking back and reading my posts I guess I am doing better over all. I didn't realize until I started reading these again.

Thanks everyone. How are you all doing?

Pam

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Hey all,

I am doing so much better too! I really wondered how I would get through him dumping me like that. I know I am not done, but I feel better and that IS progress for me. I can actually go a few hours without thinking of that jerk. LOL yup, now I am pissed.

I am so glad you are doing good too Pam. Life just sucks sometimes and you don't think it will get better again. Hope I keep feeling better too.

You'all give me hope!


Sal

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